Many grown-ups complain that children these days are egotistical and all about their ‘look.’ One of the contributing factors is undoubtedly social media and its pervasive influence, since children spend an inordinate amount of time on it, consuming the ‘all perfect’ imagery they present. However, there are also many other reasons, such as parents not having the time to speak to children and model humble behaviour. Here are some of the things you can do in order to help children nowadays learn humility.
Make Them Earn It
Think of everything in terms of respect. Make your children earn all the privileges you give them, such as toys or extra pocket money. When children work for what they have, they learn the value of what they earned. Humility is the quality of knowing that everyone has a struggle, and that the struggle must be respected. If your children want extra pocket money or an advance on next month’s pocket money, tell them that you can actually give them extra money (advances are a bad idea) but that they will have to do some carpet cleaning North Sydney. Make them do a chore that isn’t done daily.
Show Them How It’s Done
If you are arrogant and egotistical yourself, there’s little chance of your children turning out otherwise. Maybe that arrogance works for you in business, but in life humility is what will grease the wheels. If you want to teach children to be humble, roll up your sleeves and jump into helping the carpet cleaners do their work, and don’t look like you are forced into it. Treat them like human beings and your son/daughter will learn that everyone has a role to play and that everyone deserves to be treated with dignity. Otherwise, they will grow up thinking they are better than everyone else.
Let Them Learn a Lesson
Peers can sometimes be the best teachers in life. If your child has a problem with arrogant behaviour, their friends will soon cut them down to size. In such instances, look into the matter carefully to decide whether it was an instance of bullying or whether your child was simply getting their just desserts. Too often, parents come in with children who are playing the victim, even though their child is usually the instigator. Yes, you should support your child, but sometimes it is also important to let them learn their own lessons. So don’t wait till a teacher or a friend points out that your offspring is too big for their boots. Start young and teach them right.